tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post8834963290127653892..comments2010-06-14T09:07:21.453-07:00Comments on TRUE TALK: My Heart is BrokenMyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03217846916913275561noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-40562521943087806602010-06-14T09:07:21.453-07:002010-06-14T09:07:21.453-07:00Sorrrry! Mya, NOT Aina. xxSorrrry! Mya, NOT Aina. xxAnuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10629005754178032284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-9347789667152632792010-06-14T09:05:07.868-07:002010-06-14T09:05:07.868-07:00Aina,
Coming from a young Nigerian lady in her ea...Aina,<br /><br />Coming from a young Nigerian lady in her early 20s, your ex is a jackass. I'm glad you found out pre-walking down the aisle. <br /><br />"Not ready for marriage" is another word for ..uh, wait a minute.. "im not just that into you"! Simple as that, sounds harsh but we always see the signs.<br /><br />I really hope that there won't be a next time. However I implore you to check yourself and examine where you were wrong as well. <br /><br />You're a smart woman, I won't go any further.<br /><br />ps: Church is a good start but not all are there for the right reasons! xAnuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10629005754178032284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-65981170084045367792010-06-07T04:53:27.466-07:002010-06-07T04:53:27.466-07:00In 1 word, you sound like a very decent lady and s...In 1 word, you sound like a very decent lady and sometimes, i wonder why people forget that dissapointments happen to us for various reasons....you ask people to blog about pain believe me you renew the pain with each tantrum you exhibit....my advice; create a new habit stay strong and focus on your goals...for that dissapointment is your path to happiness....learn from it, use it to your advantage and i assure you that you will smile someday soon x x xanwabuisihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234447255290862327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-8524841126496630942010-06-07T00:58:28.378-07:002010-06-07T00:58:28.378-07:00It is definitely a sad story and I can feel her pa...It is definitely a sad story and I can feel her pain cuz I had my own at the begining of this year and my tears are yet to dry off even when am a man.Mine was not a marriage planning anyway,it was just two months to our introduction. It's ain't easy when your partner says it's over after a four years courtship and less than eight weeks to the real thing folks. The bottom line of mine is finance anyway so it is understandable but the pain here is the same.<br /><br />There are loads of things that are responsible for her pain.Time spent,love shared ,unsuspected betrayal ,family introduction among many others.<br /><br />No words of encouragement helped me to get over my ordeal other than I became strong for myself and leave everything to God and beleive in Him. When I was strong enough to get hold of myself,I prayed that God please have your way,no single leaf drops from a tree without you knowing. I tell you people,as much as this sound so religious,that is my strenght. It gives me the strenght to live with the fact that she is truly gone.<br /><br />If Mya is a christian or muslim then she should spend more time with her God cuz He is the begining and the ending and every other thing lives in Him. As for the guy, that is wickedness,you don't deserve the lady,you can't handle a marriage cuz it's not for the weakly. It's a God approved institution only for those who are mature. That is so cruel of him especialy for his reason.Unless there is otherwise anyway. Life is too short find a way to be happy again and don't let frustration set in because of your age. You will get what is yours and be happy again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05490558644120947032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-75102533644630831632010-06-05T17:45:52.827-07:002010-06-05T17:45:52.827-07:00I think you should be happy that the guy did not d...I think you should be happy that the guy did not deserve you.<br /><br />Whoever can not have u/marry you no matter how long you have been together, does not deserve you.<br /><br />Stop staying in pain and start to live life cos its beautiful, more beautiful when u have some1 that deserves you.oyebanji omolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118304673499607965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-73582426700179393642010-06-05T14:55:02.444-07:002010-06-05T14:55:02.444-07:00You will smile again and will one day thank God th...You will smile again and will one day thank God that he brought you thus far.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12221025941116025595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-13458516974943490042010-06-05T06:52:49.676-07:002010-06-05T06:52:49.676-07:00I must confess Mya, ur writing inspires me, brilli...I must confess Mya, ur writing inspires me, brilliant! please keep the juice flowing. Dont let wat has happened take away the shine from ur life. Enjoy life, u`re still young and thank God he left before u gt hooked up and carrying his child. Men are like buses, wen one leaves, another one comes, but shine ur eyez before u enter.Voila!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04459351156682204476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-34317785939329892832010-06-05T03:31:50.125-07:002010-06-05T03:31:50.125-07:00Stay strong and alive maam. This happens all the t...Stay strong and alive maam. This happens all the time. You just escaped a life of unfulfillment and severe pain.Thank God for those things that form your strength.<br /><br />Great writing skills.<br /><br />Do not hesitate to keep us informed when tru love beckons again.<br /><br />Enjoitonidadahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13550577829362862603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-90437571628603123782010-06-05T02:02:39.832-07:002010-06-05T02:02:39.832-07:00Bright saturday morning, just got out of bed. Inte...Bright saturday morning, just got out of bed. Intend to visit my mum today, I need to get out. I may close the blog today someone wrote on my fb page and was like I should read this blog that the story seem like mine. I had changed some facts here to keep anyone apart people I told from finding out! So I may delete the blog dont want Aina to ever find out I did this I will be termed pathetic and I will die. Again many thanks for showing me love even though you barely know me. My wedding got called off and there are people who believe I will get past this. I pray this happens and I can smile again. Let me go shower, its a new day and hopefully, I may start to care. Bye guys, wish you the best in your own private lives.Myahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03217846916913275561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-58759927119942211712010-06-04T15:56:50.324-07:002010-06-04T15:56:50.324-07:00Hey Mya, i felt bad reading your story..Im a guy m...Hey Mya, i felt bad reading your story..Im a guy myself & i know what we are like..it's made me think its no good engaging a committed woman if you not ready.. Iv bn with my missus for over 2 years now & i know what it would feel like if i had to do that to her..its hurts really bad & vice versa.. I hope you find someone, let me rephrase 'i know you'll find someone'.. just dont change who you are & love will find youAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14218210236009601022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-43957619932286432010-06-04T13:48:00.601-07:002010-06-04T13:48:00.601-07:00so sorry about what happened,but i think a broken ...so sorry about what happened,but i think a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage!<br />God knows best and He is still in the business of making people happy.<br />Yours will not be an exception.<br />Cheersademolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15687212771725488661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-79278061623383195112010-06-04T13:15:22.647-07:002010-06-04T13:15:22.647-07:00MYA I CAN'T REALLY TELL YOU I KNOW HOW YOU FEE...MYA I CAN'T REALLY TELL YOU I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL BECAUSE YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT KNOWS HOW YOU FEEL. BUT I KNOW HOW YOU MIGHT FEEL. IS SAD. I KNOW I NEVER WANT TO PROMISE A WEDDING WITHOUT EXECUTING IT. GUYS IF YOU HAVE A FIANCE AND YOU THINK IT WON'T WORK JUST CUT IT. DON'T PROPOSE MARRIAGE AND ORGANIZE IT AND THEN DECIDE YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED ANY MORE. THAT'S BULLSHIT.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10037536919891251637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-50384027943523128912010-06-04T12:14:30.695-07:002010-06-04T12:14:30.695-07:00@Mya....only time will heal your pain....Just move...@Mya....only time will heal your pain....Just move closer to God at this point in time....The joy of the Lord is your strength sis.....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08713617243314890314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-33351638875072576542010-06-04T11:58:33.669-07:002010-06-04T11:58:33.669-07:00@ All thanks a million, it helps to know some peop...@ All thanks a million, it helps to know some people understand. Baba you made me smile and have hope thanks for the kind words.Myahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03217846916913275561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-14583060618593418702010-06-04T11:17:50.295-07:002010-06-04T11:17:50.295-07:00Hi Mya,
Coming from Nigeria, you make me and a lot...Hi Mya,<br />Coming from Nigeria, you make me and a lot op people proud to have chosen to blog on this issue. I very much hope that this will have a therapeutic and healing effect on you.<br />I am a Nigerian man of middle age, your well written and articulated write-up brought me to tears, why? Because I have been there where you are now, though in a different context. But "pain is pain"<br />I can imagine, this may sound cliche, but time will definitely heal your pain. Your time will come and hopefully with the right man. You might want to consider a get away (travel abroad) to have some time to yourself and away from your normal setting with all the sentimental and emotional memories, and endeavour to put things in perspective for your self. 'Cos the one person you need to think about and consider under the circumstances now is yourself.<br />It shall be well, and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It might be difficult to absurb these words now, 'cos you are hurting, but sometime in the future, if you look back in retrospect, you will understand these words more. Believe me, I have been there and came out of it triumphantly. If I came through, then you can and will too. I have never been happier than I am right now.<br />Sometimes, some initially painful things happen for the better. I hope this will be one of those things for you.<br />Wish you all the luck & strength you need to deal with and eventually get over your pain!BABAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06216646313829196679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-43422205855136858862010-06-04T11:02:23.358-07:002010-06-04T11:02:23.358-07:00Wow! I find this to be a happy tale even if others...Wow! I find this to be a happy tale even if others may disagree. It's better to be hurt for a few months and be stuck with a prick for 30+ yrs or alternatively getting divorced. Most Nigerian women have been raised to live with a prick and I am happy he was man enough to disclose his feelings before wedding you into misery. I am married and it is not a bed of roses. I dated my wife for 6yrs before getting married to her, we face challenges like every couple and I must say, only time can really reveal people's hearts and behaviors. Not every one has 6yrs to invest before proposing but I'd say for 2yrs was enough time to get to know each other. Again there's nothing wrong with a lady disclosing her affection or toasting a man, it is totally apprioprate. One thing I know is alot of Nigerian guys in the U.K are pricks. They often seek females from wealthy backgrounds or women with high earning potentials and not to forget their dominating attitude that attracts them to women they can control. He is not being totally honest with you, not being ready for marriage is an excuse most men use in ending relationships. He is a coward and a loser, Please reveal his name so every woman out there can avoid this loser. Proposing to a woman when u r not ready is a sign of weakness and reveals an evil character........urrrrrrrrrrghhhhh! I am already very angry for you! Keep faithAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12699164273655194800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-64753467068890280642010-06-04T09:28:57.927-07:002010-06-04T09:28:57.927-07:00@ Mya
i know exactly how you feel I've been t...@ Mya<br /> i know exactly how you feel I've been there sort of. i dated this guy for two years during this period he was just a struggling officer. I stood by him ,supported him emotionally and financially. Luckily for him he was shortlisted to go on a course in the US for a year and that was the beginning of my pain. <br />He came back, took me to meet his parents and spent the weekend in his family's house. Even with all this my sweet heart wasn't the same again, he became a stranger to me. He started giving me attitude like he was above my league now. I felt bad,i asked him where i went wrong but he just didn't want to talk about it.Till now we haven't talked about anything but deep down i know its over and have to let go.<br />My dear every thing happens for a reason and a good one at that.God knows best and i believe he has better plans for me and i think you should believe it too.somyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11118720106113156176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-23313525252387492982010-06-04T09:09:30.780-07:002010-06-04T09:09:30.780-07:00@Mya
good you find solace in an old friend (your e...@Mya<br />good you find solace in an old friend (your ex), but pls do not be carried away, owing to you condition.<br />whatever happened that you guys broke up initially. please take your time and look well. its better now than if it was after marriage.<br />i would have asked you to marry me, but its late.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17134370387973248492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-17682718845757950152010-06-04T08:53:20.396-07:002010-06-04T08:53:20.396-07:00Hi mya: while the sun shined, you sounded like a c...Hi mya: while the sun shined, you sounded like a car on fast lane! maybe you were too much in a hurry. and on this fast track you formed your opinion about your love affair, and perhaps helped him to form his. Maybe aina is d kind of guy who spends the last hours of his day to run through his feelings and action, however euphoric and lifting they may be. Maybe he is just not used to hitting cloud 9 in a jiffy, and u did not notice. Did u really try to get down to really know Aina other than the romantic ooze he poured on you? to me, i really do feel sorry for you, but i feel ur case is a case of "all flowers, no root".<br />2ndly i feel from your story u r not really adept at managing crisis. A speech in time does not save 9, my dear, it needs to be followed up wth another, and another and another, till it crawls into the thin skin of his head. i think you need to get to terms with the reality of life - that it is not a bed of roses. it is in managing the sharp prickling thristles and keeping them out of harms way,while enjoying the beauty of the flowers. it is well, my dear. b strongCatchword Intlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17507819216496524190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-22831780199088207932010-06-04T03:05:01.279-07:002010-06-04T03:05:01.279-07:00@ Emmanuel!
If Mya did what he did, she'll be...@ Emmanuel!<br /><br />If Mya did what he did, she'll bear the consequences as well. <br /><br />Free will is our greatest asses as well as our greatest weakness. It was that free will that made Adam and Eve eat the forbidden fruit which we are all still suffering till date. <br /><br />There are things that are techinically right but morally wrong. You just don't do things just because you can get away with it! Think of the consequences and how it would affect others!<br /><br />I'm not blaming him for pulling away, just for doing it at the wrong time. Better late than never you may say, but if he had any consience at all, while he was enjoying the r/ship and letting her drag him along, he would have stopped for a moment to think of how it would affect her late!Ujujoanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06937412581395536377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-77249310686937648102010-06-03T17:33:38.949-07:002010-06-03T17:33:38.949-07:00@Mya, Please read the post below may be it will ma...@Mya, Please read the post below may be it will make u fell better.<br />The following emotionally upsetting but the story was narrated to me by a brother, to illustrate the far-reaching effect marital choice can have. It is the story of a young lady who met and fell in love with a dashing young man. Without sacrificing any time to lay a solid foundation for a happy and successful relationship, they got married. After about ten years of marriage the man began to feel that he was into prospering financially as eh used to before he was married. He thought of how to correct the situation and. With little effort, he got ‘appropriate’ counsel and decided to kill his wife in order to perform rituals that would change his fortune. He murdered her, then butchered her and packed her neatly into a medium sized leather bag. On his way to the ritual site, he unexpectedly ran into police check point, unusual for that time of day, the policeman asked him, to open the boot of his car. He began to perspire and was reluctant to get out of the car. The policeman insisted that he open the boot, and found the bag. The terrible deed was revealed and the man was arrested and taken to the police station.<br /><br />THE LESSONS TO BE LEARNT:<br />we should be careful there is a thin line between love and death.<br />It is better to stay single and be alive, than rush into marriage and lose you life. <br />lead.team@ymail.comFotohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10907448966984636375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-43325259241390336402010-06-03T10:55:43.695-07:002010-06-03T10:55:43.695-07:00I think you have an addictive personality. You nee...I think you have an addictive personality. You need something to be addicted to. You may have put too much pressure on him and stifled him with too much attention. Next time, take the back seat and let the man want a future with you bad enough. What happened to you is life, and we all should learn from it. if you dont then you will keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Nigerian men do not appreciate an aggressive woman. And they like to take the reality of a lifetime committment in little doses. Move on with your life, am sure your man is waiting to find you. Dont waste too much time grieving as you may lose the chance of meeting that man. Remember to take your time, and let the man do the chase. Inviting him to coffee the day you met him is quite fast. The man will not be impressed. Also your ex is a little prick and a dolt, his new girl deserves him. ;). You are not pathetic, you did the right thing and deserve all the happiness and respect. you should thank your stars you did not get with such an abusive man that hurls insults at will.Mama Africahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06610155813945078179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-67071673437299811272010-06-03T10:33:05.096-07:002010-06-03T10:33:05.096-07:00hmmm thanks for all the comments. I was beginning ...hmmm thanks for all the comments. I was beginning to think, I am crazy blogging about this but somehow when you know you are not alone, that other people feel your pain, you feel better. I am happy to know that atleast this will end. I was so happy at 12noon today and left for lunch a happy woman. My ex called to say he heard I was blogging and that I am pathetic. He asked to meet me up for lunch, I agreed. Seeing him again was crazy, needless to say I did not go back to the Office, let me just let it out in the open, I am stupid, I know, but 2mrw I will be sane I hope!Myahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03217846916913275561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-62185047506555305992010-06-03T08:38:45.971-07:002010-06-03T08:38:45.971-07:00Saying "sorry" rili would not help u.Poi...Saying "sorry" rili would not help u.Point is, u guyz were just not meant 2 b. No matter how u feeln rit now, in some yrs 2 come u will look back and wonder y u just "did'nt get it". Trust me ,you will meet some1 who will luv u 4 u, when d time is rit.4 d meantime, blog ur heart out, hang out wt friends and generally hv fun.U r bleeding ur heart out 4 a guy who aint gonna come back 1 way or the other. U owe it 2 urself n luvd 1s 2 pull urself out of ds.Besides, where u in 9ja I personally hv an effective remedy 4 ur kind of situation. Ur heart was neva made of "glass". I wonda whr da heck "heartbreak" features. :)uncagedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15879054985644340568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6764582292792898928.post-61149730554950378362010-06-03T08:36:45.241-07:002010-06-03T08:36:45.241-07:00@ Emmanuel Strong Words, yet they are true althoug...@ Emmanuel Strong Words, yet they are true although sometimes when we are hurting, these words take a while to sink in. As human beings we always remember our own pain, have not been in Mya's shoes but I hope and pray she moves on. The more you refuse to move on, the more you condemn yourself to that same hurt. This life is too short....too shortAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14369560608899769012noreply@blogger.com